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Raising an only child

We as a parent may at times feel that raising a child doesn’t require much of technical expertise and can be done with utmost precision and perfectionism.

But is it really as easy said as is done. We are often conditioned to treat our kids as our personal property but this is truly not right they are a part of you but not you. Every child is a different entity in himself blessed with immense potential to realize his true worth.

I’m a mother of a ten year old boy and the biggest struggle ever encountered by me in the whole process of rearing him was whether it is just for me to use the child rearing practices advocated and adopted by my doting parents are suffice enough to shape his behavior.

I eventually learned how my disciplinary approach needs to be adapted to match with his requirements. I was born and brought up in a house where we had many siblings and relatives to fall back upon whereas he is born in a family with no siblings in close vicinity.

It is quiet a commonplace to find the only child getting all the attention in the family. Being the only child entitles them to enjoy special privileges and not only that it sometimes unfortunately gives them any benefit of doubt to escape the wrong doings.

The only child syndrome carries with it some negative aspects as well

Children can become manipulative in getting their things done

Lack of sharing with others

Display less of self control

Lack social skills

Self centered behavior is commonly seen

The most pertinent question that often crops up in the mind of parents is how to bring up the only child without any guilt

Make sure you spend enough quality time with your young one. The child finds his biggest support in you so be there for him in his trying times.

Encourage him at the maximum to work in a team. This will instil in him the attitude to work in collaboration with others and motivate him to think about the team as a whole.

Don’t surrender yourself easily to fulfill his slightest of whim.

Patience is the biggest lesson you can teach through postponing his undesirable wishes.

Your kids are the reflection of you so make sure you project yourself and treat them the way you want people to respect them when they step out.

Be careful you don’t display any kind of inconsistency in disciplining your child.

Every beautiful moment and valuable time you invest in bringing up your child paves way to bring out his best version.

Vibes attract tribes

Any human being is a clear reflection of what perceptions and thoughts he holds within himself. You are what you eventually think and your behaviour undeniably is conceived as what energies you exhude around your self.

Our thought process is to a large extent a result of what we surround ourselves with. A lot many times we have heard this from others a man is known by the company he keeps and it holds very much true in many respects. Your company determines what you will grow up to be so decide wisely what kind of people you want to gel with.

In a more literal sense it would imply staying more connected with the ones who have the positive spirit to bring out the best version of you even in your most trying moments.

What goes around always comes around so make sure you don’t reverberate negative energies which wanes down your inner voice to strive for your much cherished dreams.

#stay positive

#reverberate peace

Living in my trance

Let me live in my trance

Dwelling in my placid abode

Where ecstasy never fades away

Where hopes don’t shatter away

Silence echoes louder than chaos

Uttering the meaning of solace

I can travel through timeless moment

Filling my heart with abundant gaiety

Trampling the guilt n obscurities

Seeping through the cracks of ego

Embracing all the light of wisdom

Reading gives meaning to life

Ever since I was a child I have been hearing this one piece of advice from all my adults get into the habit of reading good books.

Books can truly become one’s best companion irrespective of what emotions we go through. My grandfather was an avid reader of various kinds of books and I would often find him surrounded by a huge collection of books from science fiction to spirituality.

Reading is not just a hobby for many but it eventually transcends into their style of thinking. Reading can make you reflect better on certain issues of life which we otherwise don’t contemplate much in a real world.

Parents can play a pivotal role in inculcating the habit of reading in younger children since it is getting increasingly appalling to see how the millennial is getting addicted to the gadgets and gizmos which is taking them away from books.

Reading acts like a therauptic tool for the contemporary times where we unfortunately are overburdened by multiple stresses in life and have little time to unwind ourselves. Reading is instrumental in enabling us to give proper insight into our problems and how we can change our approach towards life.

A man eventually becomes what he surrounds himself with so let’s make a little effort in this direction and shift our focus in what we really want to become and a paradigm shift comes through good thoughts and positive behavior.

Don’t hold back your emotions

When I was a little girl I would see my dad and my mom as magical figures who would bring to me anything on this earth at my slightest whim. I was the most sensitive and touchy among all my siblings. Being the first to my parents I always had an extra edge over my younger sister. I was always overprotected by my parents as I was the gullible and shy personality they had to keep a close watch on me so that nobody took advantage of my naive nature.

I was never too open about my inner feelings and couldn’t express my emotions so easily to anyone. Whether it was anger love or fear never it occurred to me that I could share it with anyone.

Parents especially my father always handled me with great care and love. He was extremely overprotective about me I could never imagine in my remotest thoughts if I one day had to leave him for the heavenly abode. The mere thought would run chills down my spine it was the most disastrous moment for any of us.

Such was the bond I shared with my dad who was an adorable person a doting caring father.

I lost my father who would always remain as an immortal figure in my life to a brief illness. Through out my life I am now going to regret why I bottled up inside my emotions for him failed to articulate how dearly and intensely I felt for him.

Don’t hold back your emotions let them flow out through your heart though your soul and deeper it shines through your words.

Laugh and dance like a free bird when you are happy

Cry out a river because pain needs a vent

Show your anger when things are not going right it is okay not to feel good all the time.

Emotions are the only catalyst which make us humans so express them.

Heal your mind heal your soul

A very popular saying says a healthy body forms the backbone for a sound mind and vice versa. It definitely holds true for each one of us no matter what genre we belong to. A sound and balanced mind can pave a way to a rational thinking and the resultant constructive behavior which can further help in making a progressive society as a whole.

stresses can play serious havoc with our mental equilibrium and in today’s scenario it is not uncommon for us to see the patients of hypertension diabetes asthma and many more psychosomatic problem spiraling around us.

Most of the problem are due to extrinsic factors but some are also seen to be having genetic basis.

We can not control what is happening outside but we can certainly control how we react to the outside world.

Mind is the most sacred realm for us and should be treated with utmost respect and care. What we feed to our mind eventually becomes our very own personality.

Overwhelming positive thoughts may sound baseless at times but I am of the opinion we should indulge in more of rational thinking and objectivity. Its is perfectly okay not to be okay sometimes you are bound to have mood swings and that is perfectly normal but you must know and look out for something constructive that can get you out of the pain.

nothing lasts forever not even your worries there is always a light at the end of the tunnel remember.

Tea for any reason

I am a typical tea addicted individual who would crave tea at the break of dawn. The moment I step out of my bed I put my hot cup of tea for brewing and feel intensely intoxicated by its aromatic flavors in the air.

We Indians are anything but strong tea lovers though we do find coffee also every bit of interesting but here in India tea is a typical desi drink and coffee is treated with more sophistication.

Tea works for any damn reason be it celebrations with friends or family or running down with high fever with stuffy nose all curled up comfortaby in your cosy bed and sipping on a hot cup of ginger tea.

Proud to be an Indian

When I was a little girl it would be a day of sheer joy and happiness for the children of my age to gaze at our proud tricolor flag being hoisted in my school.

It would certainly fill out our hearts with feelings of patriotism and love for our country when we would be matching past the audience with our heads held high with greater pride for our country. At the end of the grand celebrations there used to be distribution of sweets which we loved to relish.

Independence Day even till today after thirty years down the line marks the most beautiful n sacred day for us and we celebrate it like any other festivals in India.

We Indians have immense respect for the freedom fighters and martys who lay down their lives and sacrificed almost everything in their lives to set India free from the clutches of British monarchy who had made Indians their slaves. They had not only looted and plundered our wealth but also made them dependent on them for the basic needs.

We Indians have utmost respect for the freedom given to us after a long struggle and we pledge on this day to uphold it under any circumstances. We the people of India stand together for the sovereignity and integrity of our country.

India today has emerged as a superpower and stands tall in making significant contribution in the world.