He stepped into the house with a sunken spirits crushing him down bitterly with a sullen face and tears sitting bright on the edges of his eyes with a low voice clogging his throat came out just one word sorry mom I couldn’t just live upto your expectations this time please don’t look at my answer sheets my performance has been really disastrous. He looked completely shattered and disillusioned and began to cry uncontrollably. One look at his face and I felt like something had broken severely deep inside his soul robbed him of all the gaiety and innocence he always carried. Am I being too harsh on him. Have I made him a victim of my incessant desires. Why can’t I just let him be what he is.

Is there noway I can accept him regardless of what he achieves or fails to achieve in his life. When he was born in this world he did not come with any accomplishments so what has gone wrong why I am feeling compelled to shower all my love and affection on him just because he comes home with laurels.

Why all these years I have overlooked the best in him and these thoughts echoing in my mind were making me all the more guilty. How could I just leave him alone in the lurch when he was desperate to cling on to someone to take him out of all this and enable him to regain his lost confidence.

I stood there for a minute and something inside of me shudderd me to take a plunge into the brighter side of life which is so surreal. I took him in my arms and just uttered a few words you will always be my pride son no matter what I will always love you and these grades will never change what I feel and remember you are not a looser at least you tried to give your best and I am sure one day you will outshine so don’t quit at any point of time. You eventually become what you think so try be your best.

Everything that we achieve or accomplish on this planet whether it is in terms of wealth a social status that we enjoy or the power or position that we earn for ourselves which in due course of time tend to become an inseparable part of ourselves.

Celebrities hailing from the glamorous world enjoy every moment of the limelight they are soaked in the abundance of wealth and charismatic powers they have been blessed with in influencing and attracting masses around them adds new momentum in their lives. The never ending queues of fans cheering outside their plush bungalows just to catch a glimpse of them give them a new high. Who on earth would not die for such an admiration and undying attention.

But what really seems to be so beautiful like a fairy tale comes with a big Price tag.

The harrowing and unbelievable aspects of many celebrities indulging in drugs and many other illegal activities is a crude reflection of their otherwise hollow lifestyle. What they project onscreen as a law-abiding citizens is in clear contrast with their real self.

The arc light of glamorous industry blinds them to the glaring realities of life and they begin to believe themselves as godly entities. The disillusionment set in the mind upon seeing multiple failures and falling demand often throws them into depression and loneliness. Recently a very well accomplished actress of Bollywood openly admitted about the mental depression she was being treated for and raised her voice for not being apologetic about mental health issues.

These people are constantly under speculation by the media around whether it is for their failure in marital life or dwindling career and many a times for their appearances

Looks are the prime concern for them and their obsession and insecurities with how well they look on screen and off screen can easily be traced back to the incidents where they undergone plastic surgery to defy aging process.

Such gruesome and appalling realities of glamour World are often seen to go unacknowledged because we as individuals have somewhere made ourselves conditioned to treat them more like desirable products and want to drive pleasure watching them onscreen.

It took me a while to understand what was happening with my body why am I not able to fall sound sleep these days have to literally drag myself to the kitchen every morning to do the routine household chores. What I once enjoyed doing had started bothering me now.

Have I been sleeping for too long in the afternoon? Do I need to see a doctor for putting on oodles of weight. Why am I feeling listless and fatigued all the time.doI need to see a psychologist for my mood swings or am I slipping into depression. Why is no one interested in me. Why do I feel worthless and empty in my soul.

Well these are not just hypothetical questions arising from nowhere but the most pertinent problem which engulfs the very existence of any normal middle aged woman.

Most of the women nearing the menopause age are bound to suffer from emotional pangs resulting into falling self esteem and sense of security. Hormonal imbalances occurring during such period can bring about rapid increase in weight

Sudden decline in the energy levels, increase in fatigue sleep disturbances increase in blood pressure and can even result in abnormal hair growth which can further severe one’s self image.

Middle age is the time when you should not be ignoring your health aspect. Take good care of yourself n exercise well to reduce the impact of hormonal changes in the body. Take care of your dietary intake and incorporate it with vitamin supplements and enough of calcium which often gets drained out of body during this time.

Seek medical intervention if things start getting worse or if mood swings irritability persist for a longer time.

Seek ample guidance and share your experiences with some support group.

There’s is no age limit for learning so don’t hold back yourself from pursuing any hobby of your interest.

You have come a long way raising your kids and looking after your family now it is your time so gift yourself the most deserving thing your precious time so pamper yourself well with good care of your health.

Many of our life experiences with our closed or perhaps not so close acquaintances are coloured by our very own evaluation of the other individuals.

It is very commonly seen that we individuals have a general predisposition to categorize people around us into our very set of rigid parameters of either good or I don’t want to use much intense words so more subtly the lesser liked ones.

We seem to get easily caught in the vicious cycle of judging a person instinctively on our brief interaction.

Unfortunately we fall easy prey to some of the markers undeniably

Physical appearance is one of the key factors in any society which inevitably draws your attention. Can a good looking person happens to have fair chance of winning the attention of people around. The answer is most probably yes for many. A person with complementary looks is seen to get hired easily for jobs calling for presentable personality.

Great communication skills turn out to be another deciding factor for many how well they will gel with the other person. People with remarkable oratory skills can find alliance with people who tremendously lack these skills.

Power and position held by the person of prominence can also arouse interest in others.

Our interaction with the outside world more or less depends upon whom we validate socially and how well that person lives upto our standards.

These bises prejudices and wrong notions we just keep on nurturing in our minds do no good for us rather it simply ruins our psyche and builds a kind of mental blockage which refrains us from seeing anything good in the less preferred individual in our lives and also because of that on the other hand we fail to see the vices in the people who have colored our vision.

How do you want me

To recollect those joyous

moments when I cradled

Your fragile body in my arms

the twinkle in your eyes

Gleaming with purity of soul

my vision going blurred with

tears rolling down my face

the angelic expression sat

Steadily on to your face

I kept caressing your hair

and my heart yearning to embrace

You again and again wondered

If you are me or I am you

Why do you expect me to leave myself a half way in a vulnerable state of mind with some broken pieces of heart in my hand. Why should you be dependent on others to do some thing positive to bring you out of the negativity.

Why you want to play like a victim to seek solace in the company of others. Learn to be your own master of your life there was no one else taking the responsibility of any of your failures or no-one to be credited with the upsoaring achievements of your life.

Take charge and come out emotionally strong once and for all.

You are not a godly entity who can not be making errors in life so let go of such unreasonable thoughts life only begins where everything else ends. You are your only savior at every stage of life so embrace your life leaving behind all the guilt.

Give yourself power to be the product of your positive thoughts and feelings.